I’m stressing about a potential c-section
I’m stressing about a potential C-Section
OK so I’m 31 weeks pregnant now and baby is still lying transverse and at the last scan the placenta was still partially covering the cervix so unless things start moving in an upwards direction then I need to start accepting that a C-section birth is on the cards. My next scan is on the 17th Feb at 35 weeks when we will know for sure but the worries are starting to creep in now.
I was lucky with MissB, labour started quickly, was very simple (apart from ventouse for the final bit) and over within 4 hours. We didn’t have time for any pain relief apart from gas and air and to be honest after such a nice straightforward birth I felt like supermum. I look back at the whole thing and I think I actually found it quite a satisfying and empowering process. I was actually looking forward to the thought of giving birth naturally again and can’t say I’m particularly worried or stressed about that idea.
The trouble is I may not have that option anymore and I’m going to have to consider that this birth is going to be a whole lot different I have huge issues about the idea of a c-section birth so I’m going to list a few and hope you guys can reassure me a little bit.
1) I hate the idea of a spinal / edipural and not being able to feel my legs / lower body. This is probably my worst fear and it’s the one that gives me nightmares. I know if I have to have a c-section then it’s inevitable but I just hate the thought of it.
2) I really don’t like the idea of not being able to sit up, cuddle and breastfeed the new baby as soon as it’s been born. Within minutes of MissB being born we were sat having cuddles and it was lovely, I don’t want the new baby to be wheeled away and I have to lie there being sewn up again etc before I see it again.
3) I really don’t like the idea of having to rely on midwives, nurses etc having to come and help me to lift the baby etc I’m really independent and I want to be capable of going and picking up the baby if it’s crying.
4) I worry about how long it will take to heal afterwards, especially when I will also have a 15 month old toddler aswell to look after, if I can’t lift anything or can’t drive then I’m going to be pretty much useless and it will drive me insane.
I know I should consider myself lucky for two reasons:
1) Some people have only ever had c-sections and would love to have experienced a normal birth and so I will always be thankful for that at least
2) I guess the only thing worse than going for a c-section, is going for a c-section after you’ve spent 15 hours + in labour trying to give birth normally. At least I will know in advance that it’s going to be a c-section and that I can mentally prepare myself for it.
So I guess this is an appeal for advice and reassurance to help me get over some of these fears I have.
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